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Community. Friendship. Belonging. / Nobody Talks About This Part
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Lead with Purpose
My updates for founders, executives, and creators who want to lead with vision, not noise
Issue #57 • May 22, 2026
Nobody warns you about this part.
You chose this life. You built it. You would not trade it.
And somewhere along the way, without really noticing when it happened, it got lonely.
I sit with people one on one all the time. Successful people. Busy people. People who look like they have it together from the outside. Executives. Founders. Parents. Creatives. People deep in the middle of building something -- a business, a career, a family, a life.
We go through the wheel of life together. Career. Finances. Health. Family. Fun. Relationships. Friendships.
Friendships is almost always the lowest score.
Every single time.
Not because they do not care about the people in their lives. They do. But life got full. The job got demanding. The business took over. The kids needed everything. And friendship kept getting pushed to tomorrow.
Tomorrow never really came.
The silo feels productive. Focused. Efficient. And it is quietly hollowing people out.
This is not just a founder problem. It is not just a business owner problem. It is a human problem. Anyone who has let the doing of life crowd out the living of it knows exactly what I am talking about.
I had two days this week that I keep thinking about.
Tuesday I was at the SKU pitch event in Austin. Daniel Goetz, founder and CEO of GoodPop, gave a talk. Seventeen years building his company. Over 100 million GoodPops sold a year. The kind of guy who has nothing left to prove and says exactly what he thinks.
He told us about a trip to Colombia. He noticed something there. People were not carrying the same low-grade anxiety he sees back home. He brought it up with his therapist.
The answer stopped me cold.
The source of mental health is community. The source of mental illness is isolation.
Simple as that.
After his talk I went up and introduced myself. We connected immediately. woom and GoodPop share a lot of the same DNA. Purpose driven. Built on a strong why. Community before everything else. We recognized it in each other right away and the conversation went deep fast.
With Daniel Goetz at SKU Showcase in Austin
Wednesday morning I was in Round Rock mentoring five startup founders through the gBETA Gener8tor Program at the Round Rock Chamber. Five completely different worlds -- an animal medical device company, an infant consumer product, a marketplace, an energy technology company, and a beverage company. Every single founder left me genuinely impressed.
Mentor Day with gBETA Accelerator in Round Rock
Here is what I took away from both days.
These programs are not just accelerators. They are communities. Mentors, founders, experts, advisors all in the same room, all genuinely invested in each other. And for someone who has been grinding alone, walking into a room like that feels different than anything else they have experienced. You are not just learning something. You are being seen by people who actually get it.
That changes something in you.
I see this same hunger for real connection everywhere I look. Not just in startup founders. In the executive who has not had a real conversation with a friend in months. In the parent who keeps saying they will reach out when things slow down. In anyone who has been so locked inside their own world that they have forgotten what it feels like to be truly known by someone outside of it.
I sat with two clients this week individually. Both sharp. Both experienced. I gave each of them outside feedback on their strategy. There was a pause -- the kind where you can see someone actually reckon with something -- and then both said the same thing.
"I had not thought of that"
Not because they were missing something obvious. Because that is what happens when you are isolated inside your own thinking for too long. It does not just make you lonely. It makes you blind to things that are right in front of you.
Community is not a soft topic. It is not a nice to have. It is the thing that keeps you sharp, grounded, and actually enjoying the life you are working so hard to build.
And yet it is always the lowest score on the wheel.
The people who last -- in business, in relationships, in life -- are not the toughest ones in the room. They are the ones who figured out they do not have to go it alone. The ones who invested in their community before they needed it. The ones who kept showing up for the people around them even when life got full.
That is why I am building the Birthing of Giants regional cohort here in Central Texas -- a peer group for people who are done pretending they have it all handled.
Daniel Goetz has been at this for seventeen years. He still gets on stage and says the most important thing is not strategy or funding or product market fit.
It is community.
If friendships is the lowest score on your wheel of life right now, that is not a scheduling problem.
That is a signal worth paying attention to.
Mathias
About Me
Mathias Ihlenfeld is a proud father of Luca (13) and Sofia (11), loving partner to Doralicia, and an award-winning entrepreneur based in Austin, TX.
He serves as the Austin Cohort Leader and Coach for the Birthing of Giants Regional Cohort, a selective fellowship program for growth-focused founders and CEOs building high-impact companies.
He is also the creator of The R.E.C.L.A.I.M. Code, an elite personal optimization framework built specifically for divorced high performers. His proprietary 6-stage framework helps divorced founders rebuild identity, attract aligned love, and ignite purpose-driven business performance.
As the founder of woom bikes USA, Mathias built one of North America’s fastest-growing direct-to-consumer kids’ bike companies, earning multiple Inc. 5000 honors—including a 742% three-year growth rate in 2020—and recognition as one of the fastest-growing private companies in the U.S. In 2021, he played a pivotal role in merging the U.S. and European operations, leading the combined $100M global business as CEO in 2022 and 2023. His leadership has been recognized with honors such as Ernst & Young Entrepreneur of the Year finalist and the Vistage Impact Leadership Award.
A graduate of the Birthing of Giants Fellowship Program, Mathias brings decades of expertise in entrepreneurship, business transformation, and conscious leadership. Through his coaching practice, he works with founders, executives, and high-achieving men navigating personal reinvention, guiding them through identity rebuilding, emotional mastery, business growth, and relationship alignment.
Today, Mathias mentors with SKU, invests in purpose-driven brands, and writes on his Substack—sharing hard-earned lessons, strategic insight, and stories from his journey building global brands and leading life transformations.
Entrepreneur, coach, and advisor. Helping founders and leaders reclaim clarity, build bold businesses, and live with purpose
My Mission: To inspire others to become the best version of themselves—through business and personal reflections, tools, and practices I actually use. This is for founders, leaders, and anyone creating a life with clarity, balance, and meaning.
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